I hear you

The other morning I laid in my husband’s arms and sobbed. The moment he put his arms around me the tears began to flow. I had no idea that I even had tears. It was the moment that his arms touched me that I felt safe and supported to be vulnerable.

Vulnerability is tough. No matter who you are or how long you’ve been in the field of helping people. Vulnerability can be tough. I call it “letting people see you naked”.

Can you imagine being in a room of being and standing there naked? Yes very much like the naked dreams you may have had in the past. Standing there naked people get to see every part of you, your stretch marks, your curves, your scars, your love handles, even your tattoos you’ve gotten on a whim. Yet standing there naked people get to see and know the real you.

Back to my husband’s arms.

In his arms I was “naked”. I allowed him to see me in a space where I was flooded with confusion, unease, doubt, fear, and anger. He did not judge me. He just listened and probe for more but mostly just held me. Thank you hubby.

When my husband put his arms around me my inner child felt safe enough to be heard. She appeared to let me know that in the mix of all the tears and other emotions she was scared. She did not think she was good enough. It was in that moment that I heard her, asked her what she needed and we did it. We spent time in the kitchen creating hemp infused tea.

It was in that moment self acceptance was demonstrated and we both felt a sense of peace and calmness. We were heard, we were nurtured, we were accepted. Our pain was recognized and there was support to resolve.

I wouldn’t have known how to do any of this if I hadn’t done my own healing work. I wouldn’t have know how to remind myself that I can do this if I hadn’t done my own healing work. I wouldn’t have…. you get the picture.

Inner child healing is a thing just like shadow work. You hear about shadow work so much that we often think that’s all there is to do to start your healing journey. But in order to get to the shadow we must connect with the originator of the shadow… our inner child. The inner child carries the wounds; the outer child acts on behalf of those wounds the shadow tries to hide it all.

So shadow work and inner child work goes hand in hand you can say.

Back to my husband’s arms.

So in remember my tools I was able to have a beautiful Sunday afternoon creating my tea, listening to my favorite music, and enjoying being with me. The fog of chaos disappeared for the rest of day and I felt good.

Would you like to learn how to do this?

She Heals is offering a 6 week group coaching (healing) program on Healing the child within. The start date is May 3rd. We will meet every Monday at 7pm for 90 minutes as a group doing inner child work starting with education, exploration, awareness, learning, and implementation.

To learn more about the program click here.

We hope to see you there.

And as always thank you for allowing me in your space to share my journey

Love and light


Published by Tahiyya Martin

Holistic Wellness Practitioner

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